Frequently asked Questions
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Everyone suffers from stress, anxiety, jealousy, and all those other feelings and emotions–every day. When you sit and meditate, you are separating yourself from the constant chatter of the mind, the fuel for those emotions/feelings. This gives you the opportunity to either ignore the emotion or decide how you want to react to it. The longer you practice meditation, the more control you have over your wandering mind.
Why is it so hard to sit still and quiet?
We’ve never been taught to just sit still and be quiet. As a matter of fact, sitting still and being quiet is used as punishment for children! What kind of message is that sending to our youth? When you sit still, your mind gets confused and goes to work: “Why are you sitting still? You’re supposed to be doing something. You’re just wasting time, you know.” The first few times you sit quietly and practice meditation will be difficult, and your mind will be absolutely annoying. You’ve got to stick with it though, it’s just like anything you do for the first time. It’s difficult because you’ve not done it before, and you really don’t know what you’re doing. Once you get the hang of it and start seeing results from your efforts, it gets much easier.
Find a quiet place, sit comfortably (you don’t have to sit on the floor, a chair or couch will do just fine) and close your eyes. Begin by watching your breath as it flows in and out of your body. Your mind will immediately start wandering, but don’t let it take you with it; just keep watching your breath. Fifteen minutes in the morning and fifteen minutes at night for the first few days is plenty of time to get acquainted with sitting quietly and watching the breath. After a few days, extend your time to 30 minutes in each sitting.
Meditation is not complicated. The whole experience of meditation is watching the breath and not allowing the mind to carry you away with random thoughts.
What do you mean by “mindfulness”?
The majority of the time, you’re lost in thought. So much lost in thought, that the next time you come back from a thinking tangent, ask yourself “Where was my body during that process?” You won’t even remember noticing your body throughout your thinking process! It’s sort of like when you’re dreaming at night, except your body is awake. So technically, you could say that you’re dreaming most of the time! Mindfulness is simply being aware of your body and what’s going on in the present moment, and I guarantee you that being mindful is the hardest thing you will ever attempt!
Mindfulness goes hand-in-hand with meditation, and it requires diligent practice as well. If you’re able to be mindful throughout the day, your meditation time is sooo much easier.
What are the benefits of meditation?
Once you have been meditating on a regular, daily basis, you should notice improved sleep, increased awareness of your surroundings, the ability to say, “No” to being angry or frustrated, and a more tolerant attitude toward others. Continued mindfulness and meditation will result in Self-Realization, or finally figuring out who “You” are.