Do you Know What “The Present Moment” is?
In the most simplistic sense, life is too short to be fighting with and changing every behavior of ours. The choice you have is simple: Either you can make this very moment a celebration by accepting yourself fully, or go on battling internally with what is right and wrong for the rest of your life. The moment you realize that you are perfect just the way you are, then the change you are seeking is instantaneous.
Society has one definition of a good man, one definition of a good woman, and one definition of what’s right and wrong. You are too vibrant a phenomenon to walk on this thin fine line drawn by society. What you need, in order to remain simple, unique, and beautiful, is a universal phenomenon such as watching and observing yourself. Meditation is that universal phenomenon. It’s not an ideology, philosophy, religion or something else – it’s just you and your ability to observe your life.
Initially, it is difficult to trust your meditation, because there is no one to provide you guidance and support. It is just you, your mind, your body, and how you deal with them. In this sense, you have total freedom in meditation; so much freedom that for a while you won’t know if you are doing the right thing. Meditation says, “Leave all of this and just become existential. Don’t become philosophical or intellectual; don’t become this or that. Just become existential.”
Existential means to be in this moment; that is it. If I am angry in this moment, then I am angry. My anger is okay and I will just watch it. If I don’t need this anger, then it will just go away. If I don’t watch the anger, chances are that it will come back again. The beauty of every experience we have, is that the moment we go deep into it, the moment we observe it, it disappears on its own, and whether the experience is good or bad doesn’t matter. Meditation simply says, “Keep watching, and whatever change that needs to happen in your life will happen on its own.”